I’m going to admit straightaway that this peeve is maybe unfair. There are a lot of people who like to/need to focus on some of the more basic things in life to keep them grounded and from overindulging.
However, there are some people who use this as more of an attack on people who don’t seem to share their “I have food, water, and shelter – life is great!” They post these memes over and over, trying to get the rest of us to join in their glee. Sometimes they add a religious aspect – that God will fix all.
Let’s be real about this – for some people waking up every day is hard. Depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, chronic pain, and chronic illness (among other things) make life hard for millions of people. Having food, water, clothes, and shelter doesn’t make life good for people like us.
For me that would go something like this:
I woke up.
I was in pain.
I put clothes on.
It made me a bit sick.
Life is rough.
Given how many people suffer on a regular basis, why can’t we come up with memes that reflect that life IS hard and it’s okay if we don’t think life is great all the time. Because it isn’t. I know there are millions of people around the world who don’t have the basic necessities – like food and water – but having them doesn’t necessarily make life great.
I know people who say that things may be hard for them, but they aren’t a starving kid in Africa, so their pain just isn’t that big deal. The truth is that their pain does matter. Everything is relative, but no one else’s situation defines ours or should necessarily be looked at through the lens of what someone else has. That only leads to misery and a feeling like someone else matters more than we do.
We ALL matter We all face different challenges. Yes, there are times we need to focus on others to make sure that they’re getting the basics met, but that doesn’t mean we do it to our own detriment.
I just want us all to be more sensitive to each other’s needs and not try to force us to feel and be things that we aren’t.