The rant to follow probably applies to a broader group of people than licensed professionals (doctors/nurses, lawyers, CPAs, etc.), but for right now, I’m going to contain it to these people. Why? Because I have a lot of experience with some and I am one.
- Arrogance isn’t smart. It’s obnoxious. No one likes to associate with arrogant people (unless they’re pretty fucking arrogant themselves). Perhaps check in with some people, not just your friends, about how you come across.
- Unless asked, keep your opinion to yourself. First of all, spouting off what you know about something just makes you look like a douche. If no one asked you, why are you offering? To show off what you know? No one likes a know-it-all. Second, you could get yourself in trouble with your licensing agency.
- Be wary on social media. Seriously. Social media seems like a great place to share. You can reach potentially hundreds of thousands of people. That’s not always a good thing. Even if you keep your profile locked down, it’s not hard to copy and paste or take a screenshot, and suddenly what you thought was a semi-private conversation has now gone viral.
Where did this come from, you might ask? I posted about how excited I was to have found a gynecologist who will do the hysterectomy for me! I am SO STOKED about this. My days of suffering will hopefully come to an end soon!
Well, someone I went to high school with is now a gynecologist herself. She jumped into the thread to ask why I wanted a hysterectomy. Then proceeded to tell me how I should be pursuing a more conservative course of treatment, that she surprised that I even found a doctor to do it, and talked down to me.
Despite my consistent posts about everything that’s wrong with me, she had no idea about any of my medical history. She has never examined me. I haven’t even seen her since perhaps 1999.
Why was she offering an opinion then? Your guess is as good as mine.
To make sure I wasn’t being too harsh, I asked a dentist friend to look at it. He immediately recognized how unprofessional (and stupid) it was of her to make the statements she made. Someone else messaged me to ask if it was likely that she was getting kickbacks for the medical product she recommended.
Worse than that, I had a discussion with a couple friends who told me that people they knew used the product, and more than a handful had serious issues with it. The product in question is an intrauterine device designed to prevent pregnancy and manage heavy periods. This “friend” undersold the risks that come with using it – perforation of the uterus, the IUD getting lost (LOST IN THE UTE!) and requiring surgery to get it out, and deep depression. I and a friend both know someone who’s gotten pregnant using it (fuck your 0.1% of pregnancy).
When I spoke with the doctors I knew an IUD wasn’t for, but now I am MORE THAN SURE. I already have depression, I do not need to chance making it worse.
If I had taken this “friend’s” recommendation and used the IUD and something had gone wrong, would she be liable? Possibly. As a lawyer, I would caution all my friends who are licensed professionals against offering advice the way this doctor did. No sense in testing your malpractice insurance.
So yeah, be smart, friends. Be smart.