I want to begin this post by saying that everyone should have completely disregard what Damon Wayans, Sr. says in this interview since he starts off by saying that diabetes is a “circulation disease that starts in your legs.” He keeps moving to keep diabetes at bay. Uh. What? But, that’s not why I think he can blow me.
It’s not even the fact that he said that anything can be funny, if presented the right way. Nope. Not true.
In a recent interview on “The Breakfast Club” on Power 105.1, Wayans was asked what advice he would give Bill Cosby.
If I was him, I would divorce my wife wink wink. Give her all my money. And then I would go do a deposition. I’d light one of them three-hour cigars, I’d have me some wine and maybe a Quaalude, and I would just go off because I don’t believe that he was raping. I think he was in relationships with all of them, and then he’s like, ‘You know what, it’s 78, I can’t get it up for any of y’all, bye bitches.’ And now they’re like, ‘Oh, really? Rape.’”
His defense of Bill Cosby stems from the fact that some of the rapes happened 40 years ago and suggests that that makes their claims not credible. He ignores the pushback from one of the interviewers when she says that women did come forward years ago.
In response to the fact that some of the women have said it happened multiple times, Wayans says, “If you listen to them talk they go, ‘Well, the first time…’ Bitch, how many times did it happen? Just listen to what they’re saying.”
Then he goes… “And some of them, really, is unrapeable. I look at them and go, ‘Nah, you don’t want that.‘”
Wayans blames women by saying that fame makes women do things. He also says that what Cosby did wrong is to criticize young black men and that turned us against him, thus the allegations.
He does concede that there may be some women who were raped by Bill Cosby, and his heart goes out to them and hopes they get justice. Then says, “You other bitches? Look…” Then he goes off about how Quaaludes were the drug of choice of then and people did it to get in the mood.
Damon Wayans: “What’s the joy of sleeping, you know, banging someone who’s asleep?”
The problem is that a lot of people think like Wayans. They think that that’s the right question to ask, to frame it that way.
In reality, to understand rape, you have to think like a rapist. It isn’t about joy, it’s about POWER. It’s about making someone do what you want them to, however you have to do it. It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with how someone looks, what they say, or how they dress. Some do it by force. Some, like Bill Cosby, do it by subduing a woman with charm and fame. Some guys do it by playing off your weaknesses or a pre-existing relationship.
Like the guy who had been a good friend of mine since high school who took my virginity without asking. Just went in and then said, “Guess you’re not a virgin anymore.” What was super special (note: heavy sarcasm) was a couple weeks later when he instant messaged me to see if he and I were still okay since “[he] didn’t ask [me] first.”
WAY TO ADMIT TO RAPE WITHOUT SAYING THE WORD RAPE.
He wanted something. He took it. Plain and simple. It didn’t have anything to do with what I wanted. How is that so different than “banging someone who’s asleep”?
We really need to have more discussions about what rape is so that we can all be clear. If your partner hasn’t given you permission to do it, DON’T. It’s not fucking rocket science.