2014 in Review

Yes, I do realize it’s over a week into 2015. Whatever. A writer I follow does this wrap-up every year. I meant to steal it from her last year, but I forgot. I like it so I’m going to do it now.

1. What did you do in 2014 that you’d never done before?

Traveled to the Middle East. Took a cruise! Made Mr. Lyndsy commit to a lifetime with me. Moved to the Middle East and became a resident of a country besides the US. Became self-employed.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I’m not sure I even made any. I’m sure I thought about making some, but I am pretty sure I didn’t actually finish anything. I always mean to write more than I do. I know I wanted to self-publish a novel in 2014 and that didn’t happen either. I was supposed to do a half-marathon which also didn’t happen and isn’t likely to ever happen at this point.

I won’t be making any for 2015. I know a lot of people like them and I have a friend who said it gives her a chance to recommit to things. I appreciate that, but I’m not feeling it this year.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

No. I know people who had kids last year and I see them on the internets – super cute, the lot of them.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

Not close to me, but a friend’s son passed away and it was really hard to see it happen. He was born with a congenital heart defect and they just couldn’t help him. He was 10 months old and a really happy kid. Everyone who met him, virtually or in real life, was touched by him.

5. What countries did you visit?

Stopped off in the Bahamas on the cruise, Qatar, the United Arab Emirates. Mr. Lyndsy and I were supposed to go to Brazil to visit his family but his work schedule sucked. Hopefully this year we’ll get there and some other places!

6. What would you like to have in 2015 that you lacked in 2014?

Better health and more peace. I’m getting used to the fact that I can’t pick up my foot (except for tripping a few times in December, landing on your knee in a bumpy parking lot sucks) and the pain that I’m still having in my back and leg. It’s frustrating but I’m really trying to just roll with it. I managed to get my student loans to a reasonable amount so I can stop stroking out about money. Being self-employed is great but the taxes are a bitch.

7. What dates from 2014 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

January 3 – Mr. Lyndsy left the US to fly back home and I sobbed forever because I missed him so much.

January 28 – The day my back went out and the last pain-free day I’ve had.

February 22-24 – Fun times at Disney with Joanne and her sister while watching them do a half-marathon!

March 10 – Flight to Qatar to see Mr. Lyndsy

March 19 – Spinal fusion – YUCK

May 5 – First cruise with an awesome friend. Thought I’d had being on the boat for that long but it wasn’t all bad. Quite relaxing actually.

June 28 – Mr. Lyndsy didn’t return any of my calls or texts so I started freaking out that he was run over by one of the crazy drivers here. Turns out he was flying in early to surprise me!

July 2 – Married Mr. Lyndsy!

July 16 – Moved to Qatar

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Yikes, I don’t think I really achieved anything. The half-marathon would have been one hell of an achievement. Perhaps moving across the world counts. Trying to get my life into four suitcases was kind of a big accomplishment for me. OH! I traveled to Dubai by myself! International travel still freaks me out so the fact that I got there and to my destination by myself impressed me.

9. What was your biggest failure?

I found myself turning into a more judgmental person than I like to be. When I saw very clearly what was happening, I pulled myself out of social media and just chilled out.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Oh. My. God. Yes. When my back went out on January 28 I wanted to die. It hurt SO much. I got to the doctor and a massage pretty quickly and I thought things would turn around shortly after that. Not so much. The pain didn’t let up and I started having numbness in my leg, which I knew was a very bad sign. Less than two months later I had a spinal fusion that didn’t go as planned. Now I have foot drop in my right foot and pain in both my leg and back.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

Tough call. I’m wearing some really awesome pajama pants from Target, so they come to mind first. The iPhone was great so I could FaceTime with Mr. Lyndsy while we were apart and it’s helped me keep in touch with friends and family since moving. Pretty happy with my Wii U and Mario Kart 8.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?

Mr. Lyndsy, for sure. He was so supportive after the surgery and recovery. He made sure I had flowers on Valentine’s Day (which meant buying a second set since the first got delayed) and a practical gift to make my life easier. He showed up early to surprise me before we got married. He’s also been great as I adjust to living in the fucking desert.

My mom did pretty well with me getting married and moving away. No complete breakdowns or anything.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?

Mine, for damn sure. I don’t know what the hell happened to me during part of the year, but I did NOT like what I saw.

Also, what the hell is wrong with people? All over the internet I saw people who just have no respect or regard for their fellow human beings.

14. Where did most of your money go?

Fucking student loans. At least that shit is resolved. Also, no more crazy spending on my credit cards.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Getting married, seeing Joanne TWICE in one year!, cruising with my girl S, having so many people come celebrate my life with Mr. Lyndsy, meeting Mr. Lyndsy’s family and his godmother NOT hating me (she still scares me a little), my family being super supportive after my surgery.

16. What song will always remind you of 2014?

All of Me by John Legend. It was the song that really defines my relationship with Mr. Lyndsy.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:

  • happier or sadder? Happier
  • thinner or fatter? About the same I think but I feel better.
  • richer or poorer? Richer all around.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Taking it easy. Work was really stressful and I focused on that instead of my health. Also, I wish I’d saved money better.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?

I wish I’d spent less money. Things are definitely looking up now, but if I’d been better I wouldn’t have been as stressed at the end of the year. However, I wouldn’t take back any of the trips to Disney or the cruise, so, I don’t know.

20. How did you spend Christmas?

My mom flew in for a visit and we did Christmas Eve with some friends of Mr. Lyndsy’s family. It was actually quite a bit like spending it with our family – same gift exchange game. My favorite Christmases are the ones where I go to the movies and just chill out with friends and some family.

21. Did you fall in love in 2014?

Yes-ish. I’d already fallen in love with Mr. Lyndsy, but it still grows every day.

22. What was your favorite TV program?

I don’t watch a ton of TV anymore, but Mr. Lyndsy had a bunch of back seasons of Criminal Minds, Person of Interest, Hawaii Five-O, NCIS: Los Angeles, and The Mentalist. I’ve really enjoyed all of those.

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?

No hatred here.

24. What was the best book you read?

That’s a tough question. I read a lot of books and I really enjoyed a lot of them. However, no one book stands out as being particularly awesome.

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?

John Legend. I do realize I’m behind with him, but it’s cool.

26. What did you want and get?

Mr. Lyndsy is now permanently attached to me. Pretty fucking awesome.

27. What did you want and not get?

Stupid, but an iPhone 6. I miss having a bigger phone. Also, I didn’t get magically healed. That would have been exceptional.

28. What was your favorite film of this year?

How to Train Your Dragon 2 was AWESOME. I cried. A lot. Also, Guardians of the Galaxy was pretty fucking fantastic. Any film that has the expression “pelvic sorcery” is going to get high marks from me.

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

Thirty-fucking-three. I went to dinner with Mr. Lyndsy and a friend of ours to a Mexican restaurant with the most offensively hilarious menu I’ve ever seen. Then to Cold Stone for Cake Batter ice cream!

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

I’m not sure anything would have made it more satisfying. It was a pretty satisfying year. Obviously I hoped for a better outcome with my surgery but I don’t know that it made my life less satisfying.

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2014?

Lazy and comfortable because that’s how I roll. Most days now I don’t get out of my pajamas. Working from home has its benefits.

32. What kept you sane?

Mr. Lyndsy, my friends, family, Disney trips.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Who are we all kidding? Benedict Cumberbatch.

34. What political issue stirred you the most?

The killings of black men by cops and the ridiculousness that came after. People need to get their heads out of their asses.

35. Who did you miss?

My friends. After the surgery I wasn’t able to get out and about as much. Less dinners and movies out. Now that I live 8000+ miles away, I really miss a lot of my friends!

36. Who was the best new person you met?

Mr. Lyndsy’s friend N. She is a TRIP and she’s been a great friend since I moved here.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2014.

Things aren’t always/ever going to go as we plan/want them to. Even still, if we keep going, shit finds a way to work itself out.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.

“And even better, I get to be the other half of you.”